Bob Denny: Have fun
Published: Friday, September 20, 2013 at 1:49 p.m.
Last Modified: Friday, September 20, 2013 at 1:49 p.m.
The kids went out to play. I said, “Have fun!” How many times lately have people told you to “Have fun?” Do you wake up in the morning thinking, “Today I’ll have fun?” Or, is it more like, “another day I have to get up early, and do what I must, just to make a living?” Or worse, “the start of another dreaded day?”
It’s too easy to give yourself some of those negative messages early in the day, or no message at all. Is your day fun? Do you really enjoy the way you spend your day? Or, is your day routine, boring, stressful, unpleasant, or maybe even painful? How’s that working out for you?
Wikipedia defines fun as: “a source of enjoyment, amusement, or pleasure; playful, often noisy, activity.” Or when used as an adjective, “to behave playfully.”
I watched an interview on CNN the other day with Rita Moreno, a star of “West Side Story.” She looks and speaks so well at 80 years old! She was asked, “Do you feel like you have it all now?” She responded, “The way to have it all, is to love it all.” I agree, and I’d add, “The way to have it all is find a way to do what you love doing, and do it.”
If you had a choice, would you rather have a fun, satisfying, productive, happy, and meaningful day, or a boring, stressful, or painful day? It turns out that you do have a choice. Every second of your life is a choice, an opportunity, for how to spend that time. Granted, we may need to make a living to pay our bills. We may feel we owe our time and efforts to our family, employer, or the bank. We may be in a difficult living situation. We may even be in prison! But, every moment in our lives still gives us a choice of what to do with that moment. We can choose to look at the positive side of things. Positive thoughts build positive attitudes. We can also choose what we do; our behavior. We can even choose what we want from life; our goals, our directions, and what we want to make of it.
You may ask, “How can I do it?” You’re doing it. You’re still reading. If you agree that life is all about choices, then you’re in the driver’s seat. Sure, like driving a car, you still have to follow the rules. You take some risks, and sometimes get in a fender-bender. But the alternative may be to just sit there with your engine off, going nowhere. You could choose a big mission, like “to boldly go where you’ve never gone before,” or just to get up and “bust a move!”
Ready? Turn the key. Take a little time right now, to decide what you want in your life this week, this year, this lifetime. Where do you want to go from here? It’s up to you. What would you love to do? With whom do you want to be? Where do you want to be? What do you want to have? What do you want your life to be about? Go for it!
Bob Denny counseled troubled youth and families for more than 15 years. He teaches psychology classes at Florida Gateway College. Your comments are welcome at firstname.lastname@example.org.