‘Truth’ is for real

Published: Thursday, December 27, 2012 at 12:07 p.m.
Last Modified: Thursday, December 27, 2012 at 12:07 p.m.

It's been a year full of empty calendar slots.


“The Truth About Men” by Ian K. Smith, M.D., c. 2012, St. Martin’s Press, $24.99, 187 pages.

You did lots of things with friends and family, that's true. But you can't remember the last time you had a date with a man you wanted to see again. All the ones you met this year were boring, babies, or only interested in one thing.

Maybe you're sending the wrong signals. Maybe you missed something important in Dating 101. Or perhaps you need more information, which you might find in "The Truth About Men" by Ian K. Smith, M.D.

Your friends all assure you that you're beautiful. You know you're smart and you've got it going on. So why haven't you met a decent man yet? Why are your weekend nights spent watching old movies and wishing?

Ian K. Smith says that he was attending a seminar with 300 women when those questions came up and he wanted to tell the women "the real reasons" why men are the way they are. This book is the result.

Men, he says, don't want to feel like they're being hooked. They want to work (but not too much) to win you over. Making yourself too available is no good for a man. Moving too quickly with "boyfriend/girlfriend" labels or the L-word isn't good, either.

Oh, how I waffled on this book.

"The Truth About Men" does, indeed, hold plenty of truth. There are pages and pages here that are common-sense and it will be obvious to anybody that much of what author Ian K. Smith says is for real.

For the most part, his advice is solid — sometimes.

Then there are the things I thought were preposterous, decidedly one-sided, and almost insulting: tips on physical appearance and what happens if you slip, advice on compromise, and entire passages that largely contradict other points made.

Yes, that's confusing, but it doesn't mean this is an awful book; there's goodness in here but it requires more than just a grain of salt.

If you're willing to read it thoughtfully, then you may find it helpful.

If not, then "The Truth About Men" will just leave you empty.

Terri Schlichenmeyer never goes anywhere without a book. She lives on a hill in Wisconsin with two dogs and 11,000 books.

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