It’s not ‘Complicated’


Published: Thursday, December 27, 2012 at 12:09 p.m.
Last Modified: Thursday, December 27, 2012 at 12:09 p.m.

When you think about your future, you can see yourself clearly.

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“It’s Complicated (But It Doesn’t Have to Be)” by Paul Carrick Brunson, c. 2012, Gotham Books, $22.50, 304 pages.

You will have a great place to live, filled with all the things you love. You will work a job you enjoy, maybe travel a little, and spend time with family. One day, you will even retire somewhere warm.

Yep, when you think about the future, you can just see yourself.

Unfortunately, that's the problem. You can just see yourself.

You don't want that, though. You want love, someone to grow old with, marriage, a lifetime companion. And you can find the map to that journey by reading "It's Complicated (But It Doesn't Have to Be)" by Paul Carrick Brunson.

Throughout your life, you have had plenty of opportunity to date and find a mate. You've hooked up, dressed down, and met a lot of clowns, but you haven't found a keeper.

Author and matchmaker Paul Carrick Brunson doesn't mess around in this book. He tells readers, straight up, what they need to know to find love and keep it. He offers tips, reality checks and homework, but he's not above telling readers that there are times when he can't help — which is what makes this book refreshingly different: while so many how-to-date guides seem to put outward focus on prospective mates, Brunson advocates self-examination and introspection first.

If you think strong, solid love is what other people have, this book could change everything. "It's Complicated" might be something you should see yourself reading soon.

Terri Schlichenmeyer never goes anywhere without a book. She lives on a hill in Wisconsin with two dogs and 11,000 books.

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