Isabell Springer: The election's over: We are all Americans
Published: Monday, November 12, 2012 at 9:43 a.m.
Last Modified: Monday, November 12, 2012 at 9:43 a.m.
As a relationship educator and marriage and family therapist, I work with people all day who struggle with their interpersonal relationships because they lack compassion and empathy for their partner. This is also reflected in the over 50 percent divorce rate in our country (CDC, 2011). This type of pain is also what many individuals are feeling now that the presidential race is over, and is the cause for relationship dissolution. I am sad to report that two days after the election, I experienced a similar break up when a friend defriended due to my "gloating." I never realized I had a serious problem with "over-celebrating."
There are many factors due to break ups, but one of the prime causes of suffering is our relationship with the illusion of duality; This or that, ours and theirs, mine and yours, us and them, etc...and while many of us are celebrating a political "victory," almost the exact same number of people are suffering because they believe something bad has happened!
It seems hard to remember, but we are not really Democrats and Republicans, but rather we are all Americans, or beyond that we are all just human beings. We are all struggling with the same issues of stability and vital sense of purpose and well being. We all want a healthy world and a place our children can thrive in, a place where things make sense, even though that vision may be radically different from person to person.
This sense of division, of an invisible enemy, is simply not real. It is an artificial social construct that has arisen over time in response to many things that have occurred and arisen over time, and is not permanent. That in fact, duality politically serves a very direct purpose because it redirects our attention away from the corporate/economic modality and agenda that is at the heart of the divisiveness.
The acquisition and dispersal of material wealth is not the purpose of human existence. The inequitable distribution of material wealth is also a construct we all tacitly agree to. I don't think real leadership is about partisanship. I think it is about willingness to risk and stand up for essential human rights and values that transcend partisanship. Ghandi, Martin Luther King Jr, Kennedy, etc...they saw this. This is why they were successful in catalyzing huge change.
We live in a representational democracy where all voices should be heard. There is no 47 percent because both sides see the world as they do. Our government is a system that evolved to serve a specific purpose, from which we have strayed. There is a razor's edge between idealism and fascism and we have been sitting on that edge for a while now.
To those who feel something was lost; remember we are all in this together and we can find common ground, and to those who think we "won" something, remember it is all impermanent, and as long as we are apathetic in voicing our real needs and advocating for a just culture built on the ideal that "All men are created equal" we are serving the corporate masters. Their agenda is quite from anything either side wants because as long as we fight amongst ourselves we ignore the corporate agenda that effects us all so deeply, and that is the real injustice harming so many.
May all beings be free from the root causes of suffering,