Widow's age doesn’t matter
Published: Tuesday, August 1, 2006 at 6:01 a.m.
Last Modified: Tuesday, August 1, 2006 at 3:23 a.m.
I keep house for my divorced son and teenage grandson. I drive my grandson to school in a carpool, take him to the doctor, the dentist, etc. I am blessed with good health and can travel across the country to visit my daughters and other relatives. I play bridge three or four times a week. I am active in my religious community and have many friends of all ages. I love to read, and Iím never bored or lonely.
Abby, what Iím trying to say is: Age is all in the mind.
Young at Heart in Arizona
Dear Young at Heart:I agree with you. With your attitude you will never be ďoldĒ or lonely.
As to missing ballroom dancing, check your Yellow Pages for dancing schools and sign up for some classes. I knew a lady who went dancing well into her 90s. When she attended events, she would take one (or two!) dancing instructors with her. Where thereís a will, thereís a way.
Dear Abby:Both of my siblings and I are in our mid-20s. After years of fighting, bickering and unhappiness, my parents have finally separated for good. My mother has moved in with her cousin.
My problem is my mother is perpetually depressed. This has been going on for years. In addition, she has become more and more reclusive. We have tried repeatedly to get Mom into counseling or involved in any sort of social organization to no avail.
Abby, please help. Can you suggest some place or organization to which my mother can turn for help?
Witís End in Wilmington
Dear Witís End:
Chronic depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. The good news is that, in most cases, it is treatable. Your mother should see a physician for a thorough checkup, and if possible, you should accompany her and explain how restricted her life has become.
Dear Abby:I met an interesting, caring, loving man four weeks ago. He is 23 and I am 28. We are very attracted to each other. We have already become intimate, and we have decided to date exclusively.
I realize our relationship has moved awfully fast. My problem is, he never wants to go anywhere. He prefers to sit at his home or mine, watch TV, have sex or not ó and heís completely satisfied with that.
I, on the other hand, am a go-getter. I love to be taken out and shown a good time, go dancing, go to the gym, to the movies, the theater and restaurants. I have discussed my unhappiness with him, but he thinks Iím overreacting. Is this a warning sign? What do you think?
Fast Love in Texas
Dear Fast Love:I think you have jumped the gun. Your boyfriendís passivity is a warning sign. Before you forego dating others, you need to know him a lot better. If there are major disparities now in your view of what makes a good time, consider the adjustments you will both have to make if you get really serious.
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