Children need validation from their father, too


Published: Thursday, January 19, 2006 at 6:01 a.m.
Last Modified: Wednesday, January 18, 2006 at 11:26 a.m.

As a young man I had to stop and ask myself how many times have I heard the phrase "You're just like your daddy," and just what do those words really mean to me as a man?

"A good man leaveth an inheritance to his children's children. . . .," Proverbs 13:22. When most speak of leaving an inheritance we think of money or material things, which are good, but they will fade away in time. I am talking about a real inheritance; the things that all the money in the world can't buy.

I have seen so many people that are able to obtain almost any material possessions that they can think of and still not find peace or contentment. Some even turn to sex, drugs or alcohol in an effort to fill the empty void in their life, while all the time all they needed was the love and acceptance of a father.

Children need to be validated as to who they are, not only by their mother, but by their father as well. Even Jesus received validation from God as to who he was.

"Now when all the people were baptized, and when Jesus also had been baptized and was praying, the heaven was opened, and the Holy Spirit descended upon him in bodily form as a dove, and a voice came from heaven, 'Thou art my beloved Son; with thee I am well pleased,' " Luke 3:21-22.

According to the Fatherhood Stats Web site, children from fatherless homes are five times more likely to commit suicide, 32 times more likely to run away, 20 times more likely to have behavioral disorders, and so on. So anyone can see that dads are important.

Now I realize that in the society in which we live today, that relationships come and go like the waves of an ocean, but a sad commentary are the casualties of those often left behind - the children.

We as men can buy large gifts and put on a front like we have it all together. But it is the little things that we do that our children will remember the most:

spending time with them;

letting them be heard;

going to the school and attending parent meetings;

helping with homework;

and just being there to hold a hand in time of need.

So please keep these things in mind and maybe the next time the statement is made that "You're just like your daddy," let it be said in a positive light.

Anyone can be a father, but it takes a real man to be a dad.

"A good man leaveth an inheritance to his children's children."

The Rev. Kenneth L. Hunt lives in Gainesville.

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