Don't have shame in your game


Published: Friday, January 16, 2004 at 11:23 a.m.
Last Modified: Friday, January 16, 2004 at 11:33 a.m.

So, guys, now that new classes have begun, I'm sure you've spotted that cute girl in your class that you are dying to talk to. However, as I have noticed, most guys don't know how to properly "hit on" a girl. So, I figured what would be better than to give those struggling guys some tips to boost their game.

For starters try finding a seat next to her so you can start up a conversation. As simple as this sounds, I have had guys make weird gestures and mouth conversations to me across the room, so avoid that.

Find something interesting about them that you can talk about. For example: Do you understand anything this teacher is saying? What was the assignment that is due on Friday? I really like your glasses/hair, etc. Talk about something you know will interest her because if I know girls, they like to talk about themselves a lot.

Don't stare at their boobs or make it obvious that you are checking out their bodies. Keep eye contact because girls like a man with self confidence. Introduce yourself and ask their name and where they are from. Sports and organizations are good conversation topics because we all know how much we love the Gators.

Don't ask for her number the first time you talk to her because that makes you seem too eager and forward. However, do say that you'll see her next class. That leaves her waiting and gives you a chance to call the shots. So when you are ready to ask for her number, be polite about it and if she doesn't feel comfortable giving it to you then don't push it. If she says she has a boyfriend, sorry, she's off limits and probably doesn't want you throwing game at her.

Girls want a guy who respects them. So this means first dates really shouldn't involve getting trashed or going to a club where you can't hear a word they say. It seems like college guys just invite girls to a party to drink and don't take dating seriously. Take the girl out on a real date and you will have a heads up on the other guys trying to snag her. Take her out to dinner, lunch, the movies or a sporting event.

While it is important to be confident, do not come off too cocky because that turns girls off. A girl likes a bit of flattery, but don't go overboard because she'll think you're faking it.

Respect her wishes. If she says no, she means it, so leave her alone.

Communication is key. If you keep the conversation flowing, no awkward silences will ruin the moment.

Watch her body language because it will give you a hint to if she is interested or not. If she has her arms crossed, doesn't maintain eye contact, and seems like she is distant, she's probably not interested.

If there was only one tip I could give you it would be to call. Don't be afraid to use the telephone. Girls like when a guy calls them. If she's not interested in you she probably won't return your phone calls or she may seem short on the phone.

Make them laugh, seem interested in what they have to say. Be straight forward with them and don't play games.

The most important piece of advice that I can leave you with is just to be yourself. That is really all it comes down to. So, remember guys, be polite, be respectful, be yourself and good luck!

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